Triple Cursed

I swear I’m triple cursed to being the victim of people who have no manners. Why? Because I’m exceptionally polite. Why? I have identified three main reasons.

  1. I’m from the South. I was raised in a small town, just up the road from my great-grandmother as well as my grandmother & grandfather. Translation: If I acted up at my great-grandmothers, I got spanked there. Then she would call my grandmother & grandfather and I would get another spanking on the way home. Then they would call my mother and I’d get another spanking. And then, it was, “Just wait until your father gets home. So, from a very early age, I was raised to treat everyone with respect and to always use my manners. Anytime you get spanked four times for getting out of line, the message hits home pretty quick. Even today, it’s “yes, ma’am”, “no, ma’am”, “please”, “thank you”, “yes, sir”, “no sir”, and so on.
  2. I live in Texas. It is just expected that the men are going to open the doors, pull out the chairs, and act as gentlemen. You may not see it as much in “the city”, but you definitely can observe this behaviour almost anywhere in Texas.
  3. I work in the hospitality industry. Let’s be honest: I’m in sales at a resort. If there is anyone at the entire resort that you expect to always be courteous, friendly and in a great mood – it’s got to be one of the sales guys, right?

So here’s my curse: No one else seems to realize what manners are anymore. If I say, “Good morning,” to someone on the street, it’s because it just comes naturally to me. But people just look at you like you stepped off a flying saucer. I have manners – that’s all. I’m not an alien or have three eyes or anything.

If I hold open the door for a lady, all of a sudden it’s like a clown car showed up and 30 more people walk through. How many of them say thank you? Zero. How many guys “tag in” and take over the door holding? Zip. GRR!

Listen, people, if someone says, “Good morning!” to you out on the street, the proper retort is, “Good morning!” If someone says, “How are you doing today?” There are hundreds of possible responses, so use them. Don’t just ignore them. If you’re walking down a hallway and someone smiles at you or nods, return the courtesy!

Is it just me?! Are you trying to be polite to a world that just needs a good spanking…or four spankings?! Someone tell me that I’m not the last one out there, or –if I am– at least let me know so I can quit caring so much! Jeepers!

5 Comments on “Triple Cursed”

  1. I opened a door to walk out of Cape Buffalo one evening, and an older gentleman guy was walking into the building, so as I opened the door, he walked on in. As if I was opening the door for him! Can you believe that? I was so offended. And I can’t tell you the number of times Josh has opened a door for a lady and they just walk through and don’t say anything. Of course, most of the time I have to spout out a “THANK YOU!” to them. My point..its not just you. Josh and I were raised with manners and get very annoyed at others who don’t have any.

  2. Amen! As a Southern girl I would have been “worn out” for conducting myself in the way that so called reasonable adults behave today.

    Two weeks ago an older guy tried to help me in the grocery store (he thought he was helping me get a better deal but I had to show him that my product wasn’t the same as his). I thanked him profusely because he tried to help me. He apologized for wasting my time. The incident says to me that there are FAR TOO polite people in this city. He was embarrassed and worried that he’d wasted my time and I went home and cried my eyes out because it had been so long since someone was nice that I forgot how it felt. I’ve got to get back down South as I know there are still some polite people there. They may all be my grandmother’s age but so be it.

    On a semi-related note, did I read correctly that you started out your life in Maysville, KY? My dad is a DM for WalMart and that is one of his stores.

  3. No, it’s not just you. I pass people in the hall at work and try to at least look them in the eye and smile. I get ignored at least 50% of the time. I do it anyway.

  4. No, not just you, but I suspect many of us are giving upfighting the good fight.

    As I get older, and get ever less respect for tring to be kind and polite, I find myself less willing to maintain the effort.

    It is a sad world to have to live in, I just no longer have the energy to stay polite to people who do not respect me for it.

    I am not a raving bas**** yet, but I am much quicker to express my irritation with people who are than I used to be, even a couple of years ago.

    I would love to say keep it up, but I just don’t have the faith anymore.

    Keep up the faith, forever if you have the strengh.



    Worst part of all is my religion is BASED of respect and politness, and treating people well.